Common Courtesy – Having Respect for Others and Showing Kindness

I need to warn you – this may seem a bit preachy.  But it has been boiling in me for about a year and needs to come out.

Much of what I see in our culture contradicts the following statements:

“Honor other people first, before you honor yourself.”

“Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, and profane talk.  Be gentle with one another, sensitive.  Forgive one another as quickly as you want to be forgiven.”

“Do not judge and you will not be judged.  Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven.”

What do I see in our culture that bothers me?

  • I see large groups creating anger, judgments and dogma against other large groups.
  • I see politicians refusing to see the other side of things.  They argue rather than debate their differences.
  • I see businesses judging lifestyles and beliefs of people to the point of exclusion.
  • I see people throwing people “under the bus” to save their own reputation.
  • I see a rebirth of bigotry, sexism, and prejudice stirring and sprouting.
  • I see selfishness and insensitivity to the needs of others resurfacing.
  • I see a mean spirit coming from groups of people, attacking the beliefs of other groups of people.

We are not perfect or even close to it.  Therefore, give each other some breathing space.

Be courteous to each other.  Let the other go ahead of you.  Ask for permission before cutting in front of someone.  Say thank you.  Tip more than you are used to tipping.  Accept or at least sincerely listen to differing opinions.  Avoid being fearful of those who look differently, speak differently, dress differently, etc.  Be genuinely inquisitive, learning what someone else believes and why.

We seem to be hell bent on attaining power for ourselves that we stomp all over other people.  Instead of respecting them, we are pushing them aside and down.

I am sure you can also think of ways you could show kindness and respect for others.

We could take this one step further by reminding others to show respect for others and to be kind.



About Gary

I am retired, but not tired. I still want to be valuable to others. I know that others are valuable to me. After looking back on six decades, I have asked myself this question: “What do I believe?” My mind filled up. My heart started beating faster. My spirit soared. I post blogs to share what my mind is working on, what my heart believes would help others and, what my spirit is communicating to me. What do I believe, you ask? Decisions dictate your path In love, not hate In tolerance, not prejudice In health, not sickness In wealth, not poverty In kindness, rudeness In happiness, not sadness In encouragement, not discouragement In faith, not doubt In courage, not fear I have been and will be challenged in each one of these beliefs, but the biggest belief is to stay positive and not turn negative. This belief helps me maintain all of the others.

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