Gracious Politics

Three Things a Man Is…

What He thinks he is

What others think he is

What he really is…”

Irish Proverb


Yesterday, a co-worker of mine complained to me that he was pulled aside and told that his working habits and relationship with some of the other employees in his department were lacking and that if he didn’t change his habits he wasn’t needed there.  He was indigent and angry.  Most people would be.  It wasn’t so long ago that I was all indigence as well.  But I also have had many opportunities to step back and look at my behavior and emotions.  And I have had the grace to realize that these were teaching moments.

I was sympathetic – I have been in similar situations in the past – but I was not empathetic.  No matter what your job is, if you are receiving compensation for your time, it is my thought that gracious politics (something that I think is difficult in our society right now) is something that needs honoring.

Listen to what your superior’s perception of you is.

Understand why they hold that perception.

Understand your own perceptions and thoughts.

Communicate (calmly) your perceptions.

Repeat back what you understand their perceptions of you are.

Repeat the process.


If you can’t reconcile their perceptions of you with your own, then perhaps you need to look for a better fit.  In employment, there is always give and take.  If you can’t reconcile this with the position you are in, maybe there is a better fit elsewhere. The real way to get where you want inside a job is to keep your work and interpersonal interactions in line with your goals.  Take criticism with graciousness and then examine your own behavior to see if that criticism was warranted.  In an average workplace it will be closely aligned.  Reconcile their view of you with your own.


That can’t be too hard…right?

About Nathan

Hi! I am Nathan! So why am I here? That is my main question. I am fascinated by the current wave of science meeting with the philosophical questions throughout history. I am a Taoist and a disorganized dreamer who makes up new words to describe states of being and thought processes. I love to bring to you these simple yet powerful little inspirations and truths. I believe that each one of us is infinitely important and we are all connected. As Carl Sagan put it, “We are a way for the Cosmos to know itself.” We might be all connected, but you are still you. It is your perceptions that shape your reality. So join me in changing perceptions!

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