Moving Forward

The past has been on my mind this week.  My past, the pasts of my friends and how we move forward from the past.  I have always been of the mindset that learning from past mistakes and experiences make me a better person, make everyone better people.   But what if the past is so damaging or the present is so painful that you can’t move forward?

I came across several blogs outlining steps to take to get from underneath the past and one thing really caught my attention.

“Make the first move. You’re in charge of your pain. You’re the one who carries it around with you and you’re the only one who can change its intensity. It’s up to you to take control of the pain and take the first step towards making yourself feel better.

• Acknowledge that your pain is real and that a positive solution exists.
• Confront the cause of the pain and do everything in your power to get rid of it.”

We are in control of our own lives; our own outcomes.  We have been given that control from birth and it is up to us to not let it get out of control.  We need to let the past help us grow but not to stunt that growth by living in it.  It is hard, circumstances and situations make it hard to move forward.  It is painful to realize that our present and future are not where we want them to be and it is easy to revert back to a time when things were happy and simple.

“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past are certain to miss the future.” John F. Kennedy

Some more steps we can take to help us realize that living in the present and looking to the future are the only way to move out of the ruts we have put ourselves in.

Identify why you live in the past. What is the about the past that was so much better/worse than today? How can you make your present circumstances better than your past experiences?

Make plans for the future. If you aspire to a happier tomorrow, you will be less inclined to look back to the past. Daydream a little as you’re doing this, it will feel really good! Don’t limit yourself by thinking “this is impossible”.

Don’t think about what you lack. Thinking of what you don’t have in your life today will keep a happy future from you, so don’t fall into that trap. Dream your future as you would wish it to be.

Appreciate what you have now. Even if you feel like you don’t have a lot to be thankful of right now, if you really think about it, you’ll find you have a lot that you don’t appreciate. Take five minutes before you fall asleep and think of all the positive things that happened during your day. Even if it is something as simple as having had a conversation with someone you love, eating a nice meal with your family, appreciating the comfort of your bed or thinking of something fun to do at the weekend – those are all things should be appreciated!

My past is full of amazing experiences, mistakes and awesome people but so is my present and I am betting my future will be full of all of those things as well.  I cherish my life now, in the present, and look forward to what my life will be like in the future.  I hope that you all believe the same and we can all move forward!

“Have the courage to live. Anyone can die.” Robert Cody

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About Felicia

Hello, I am Felicia and I am one of the founding members of Health Now, Wealth Forever. When we came up with the concept of starting our family business, I was enthusiastic just to spend time working on a project with my family. But, as we have grown and expanded, my passion for educating myself and others - about alternative health options and changing the way we view finances and life - has taken over. While I admit I am not the healthiest of our group, I am working on it daily and hope that the articles I write help you to work on it with me. Thank you for supporting us and allowing us to open our minds and yours to an alternative way of look at health, wealth and life!

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