Residual Pieces of Anger

I believe that there are several layers of anger – at least when we experience a larger than normal dose of it. I also believe that when we experience this large anger dose, we don’t entirely deal with it.  We, either sub-consciously or consciously keep some of the pieces.  Maybe for vengeance, maybe for righteousness sake, maybe out of not knowing how to get rid of it or maybe we just simply can’t let go for some reason or another.  Have you ever heard someone say “Never mind – I would just rather be mad”.  Rather than take the time and effort to resolve what makes us angry, sometimes we would just rather hang on to the anger to make us “feel justified” or ”right about something”.  My question is: “When we keep some anger for ourselves, what are we doing to our health?”

When we go through something that hurts and makes us angry – like a relationship that has broken up or a death of a close friend or family member, do we hang onto some of the anger?  I know I do – something will come up to remind of the situation, and I immediately get angry again, even if I thought I had dealt with the anger.  I think I may still be hanging onto some anger – is it affecting my health?

It seems like there are a gazillion articles, web sites and research papers about what detriments to your health can occur if you don’t properly deal with your anger.

University of Washington School of Nursing has a reported study concerning how husbands and wives deal with anger.  It is well known that anger and depression have been linked to all major causes of death.  It showed that wives have a greater association between anger and depression and husbands have a greater association between anger and physical health problems.

Ohio State University performed a study, a very detailed study, which showed that those without control over their anger tended to heal more slowly from wounds.  They gave their subjects blisters and subjected them stresses that caused anger and found that those subjects’ blisters healed slower than the subjects who were not subjected to these stresses.

Harvard School of Public Health performed a study which showed that men who had high rates of hostility also experienced breathing problems and higher rates of decline as they got older.

Studies of children and adolescents show that those who cope with anger poorly generally show more negative results when it comes to mental and physical health. 

It appears, although not real specific, that the mental and physical health of adults, adolescents, and children are negatively affected when anger levels are not managed effectively.

I have found a really good web site to start us onto a path of managing anger and obtaining stress relief.  I believe this is an ongoing process.  You can’t deal with your anger about a situation once and forget it.  It takes time and you need to revisit it over and over to effectively manage it.

Take a look at:  Manage your anger before you affect your health and well-being.  Un-attended anger can cause high-blood pressure, heart disease, ulcers, acid-reflux, arthritis, migraine headaches, etc.

Some of the subjects this web-site covers:

Examine Your Beliefs

Eliminate Some of Your ‘Anger Triggers’

Develop Effective Communication Skills

Take Care of Yourself

Keep Some Stress Relievers Handy

Get Support If You Need It


About Gary

I am retired, but not tired. I still want to be valuable to others. I know that others are valuable to me. After looking back on six decades, I have asked myself this question: “What do I believe?” My mind filled up. My heart started beating faster. My spirit soared. I post blogs to share what my mind is working on, what my heart believes would help others and, what my spirit is communicating to me. What do I believe, you ask? Decisions dictate your path In love, not hate In tolerance, not prejudice In health, not sickness In wealth, not poverty In kindness, rudeness In happiness, not sadness In encouragement, not discouragement In faith, not doubt In courage, not fear I have been and will be challenged in each one of these beliefs, but the biggest belief is to stay positive and not turn negative. This belief helps me maintain all of the others.

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