Think Before You Fight

Each of us deals with Anger in a different way.  Some internalize it, some ignore it and some spread it around by projecting onto others.   But anger always finds a way to deeply affect the person who carries it within themselves.  Anger always finds a way out but we are the only ones who can control it once it is out.

I find when I am angry, really angry; I have to process it within myself first.  I have to figure out the why, how and who before I can confront whomever or whatever has made me angry.  I look at the past, present and future when thinking about the confrontation that will be inevitable.  I didn’t used to be this way, anger used to cause me to turn into a person who instigated and enjoyed the fight but as I have grown and learned, I have realized that this is the least proactive way to handle the anger.   It tends to cause the person I am confronting to become defensive and stop listening and the issue I am angry at to stay the same and cause me to look like an idiot for yelling before I think.

By processing the anger before the confronting, I am looking at all the sides.  I am thinking before I speak (always a smart option) and I am going into whatever confrontation with a clear intent on what I need to say to make sure I am not angry again.   Another reason I process before I confront is that if I don’t, the anger will take me over.  It will bother me in every aspect of my life and cause me to turn into a person that I and others don’t like.  I will and have become a person who is always angry, always confrontational and always unhappy.  This is not who I want to be…ever.

It is hard to process anger and there are still situations where I run my mouth or let the anger consume me but I am aware of it now and try to think things through as much as possible so I don’t look and feel like an idiot.

Felicia

About Felicia

Hello, I am Felicia and I am one of the founding members of Health Now, Wealth Forever. When we came up with the concept of starting our family business, I was enthusiastic just to spend time working on a project with my family. But, as we have grown and expanded, my passion for educating myself and others - about alternative health options and changing the way we view finances and life - has taken over. While I admit I am not the healthiest of our group, I am working on it daily and hope that the articles I write help you to work on it with me. Thank you for supporting us and allowing us to open our minds and yours to an alternative way of look at health, wealth and life!

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