Unintentional Collateral Damage

This is usually thought of as a necessary military action and/or result.  But – this is not what I am talking about.  What is on my mind is this:

Have you ever done or said something to someone under the complete intention of being kind or complimentary and find out to your chagrin that you have unintentionally hurt or insulted someone else?

I am confident that we all have done this.  I have seen on a blog this statement:  “In marriage, friendships, family and other relationships we hurt each other.  We don’t do it in malice.  It just happens.  An action taken a word spoken or even a look can harm someone …”

You find out about what hurt you inadvertently caused and take the proper actions.  You ask to be forgiven.  Hopefully they will extend graciousness and forgive you.  But, what if they don’t accept your request and won’t forgive?  Then what do you do?

What if it is the other direction?  What if their unintended action, word or look harms you?  Can you forgive them?

Forgiveness is the key ingredient. First, we must find a way to forgiveness ourselves.  Otherwise resentment, anger and bitterness will find their way into our life.  This will destroy our lives.  Forgiveness is the necessary element to healing and happiness.



About Gary

I am retired, but not tired. I still want to be valuable to others. I know that others are valuable to me. After looking back on six decades, I have asked myself this question: “What do I believe?” My mind filled up. My heart started beating faster. My spirit soared. I post blogs to share what my mind is working on, what my heart believes would help others and, what my spirit is communicating to me. What do I believe, you ask? Decisions dictate your path In love, not hate In tolerance, not prejudice In health, not sickness In wealth, not poverty In kindness, rudeness In happiness, not sadness In encouragement, not discouragement In faith, not doubt In courage, not fear I have been and will be challenged in each one of these beliefs, but the biggest belief is to stay positive and not turn negative. This belief helps me maintain all of the others.

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